Steve Ward

We can improve our relationships if we focus more on others than on ourselves. The problem is, we often don’t want to.

Every day, you make dozens of choices that affect your relationships one way or the other. You won’t get them all right, but you can move in the right direction if you focus on those decisions one at a time. And if you keep making good choices, you build good habits along the way.

When was the last time you had a real conversation? Not an interaction with only casual small talk about hobbies, work, or other activities. A deeper conversation when you were totally engaged in the moment. One where you empathetically focused more on the other person than yourself—your feelings, your stories, your agenda.  

Imagine you’re a football player at the University of Alabama—before Coach Saban retired. How would you react when asked to do something?

Who do you know that is like the person I am about to describe? John likes to be in charge, and he enjoys being in control…

Who do you know that is like the person I am about to describe? John likes to be in charge, and he enjoys being in control…