HOW DO I STAY MORE CONNECTED WITH MY TEENAGERS?
When our kids become teenagers, it’s harder to talk to them than when they’re younger. They are not around as much, more independent, and less open with their feelings. If they’re struggling or making bad choices, it’s even harder, but it’s now more important than ever.
How can you stay more connected to your teenagers?
Invest the time to build your relationship
Quality time comes only from quantity time. One of your biggest choices is how much time you spend with your kids. Time together having fun and hanging out will help you form loving and trusted relationships with them.
Improve your personal communication skills
Lecturing, preaching, and yelling don’t work with teenagers. Ask more questions and listen deeply to their answers. Ask family members how you communicate, including tone and expression, and work on your blind spots.
Have important conversations with your kids
In the PACES for Parents online learning center, use the free product in the Connection section titled “Conversations Every Teenager Needs to Hear” to help you plan those critical talks you will have with your kids.
Here are other resources that can help you stay connected to your kids:
- “What Every Teenager Needs to Hear”
- “What Do You Do When You Can’t Talk to Your Teenagers?”
- “PACES: Steps to Becoming a Better Parent”
- “Being a Dad”
Next Right Steps: Commit the time to have at least one good conversation with each of your kids every week with no agenda and listen.
